The college admissions process can be a bruising affair. It's a courtship between a prospective student and the college he most desires and sometimes the relationship is over before it starts.
College seniors spend a great amount of energy, time, money and focus applying to their choice schools. And then, they wait. And wait. And wait. For many college-bound students, when the fat envelope arrives, they're elated. But what about the recipients of the skinny envelope? How to handle that rejection?
Before your child beats himself up for not being good enough, smart enough, skilled enough, take a deep breath. It may not be as bad as it seems. First of all, in my experience, if your child doesn't get at least one rejection letter, then he (or she) has probably aimed too low. In other words, the bright side is that your child has challenged himself to apply for reach schools — and that is a good thing.
It may also help your child to keep in perspective that colleges base their decisions on factors such as how much financial aid he requires or whether or not she's an athlete — it's not strictly a decision based on GPAs, class rank or community service hours.
The college application and rejection process is a teachable moment, even before your child steps into a college classroom. It's a chance to help your child understand that everyone experiences rejection and disappointment at some point in their lives. It's not the end of the world. And come fall, there will be a college waiting for him that will benefit from his presence.